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October is Domestic Violence Awareness and Prevention Month. Domestic abuse hurts children, families, commands and community. Counseling Services can help!
Does your partner…
- Embarrass you with put-downs?
- Look at you or act in ways that scare you?
- Control what you do, who you see and talk to or where you go?
- Stop you from seeing your friends or family members?
- Take your money or Social Security check, make you ask for money or refuse to give you money?
- Make all of the decisions?
- Tell you that you’re a bad parent or threaten to take away or hurt your children?
- Prevent you from working or attending school?
- Act like the abuse is no big deal, it’s your fault, or even denies doing it?
- Destroy your property or threaten to kill your pets?
- Intimidate you with guns, knives or other weapons?
- Shove you, slap you, choke you, or hit you?
- Force you to try and drop charges?
- Threaten to commit suicide? Threaten to kill you?
If you answered “YES” to any of the above, please contact Counseling Services (760)-725-9051 or National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-(800)-799-7233(SAFE) for more information.
Counseling Services can assist active duty members and their families cope with personal and family concerns. Domestic Violence/Abuse can be very destructive to the family and affect Unit Readiness. Families are encouraged to seek help at the earliest signs of abuse and/or violence.
What is Domestic Violence?
A pattern of coercive behavior used to establish power and control over another person, usually an intimate partner. It happens when one person believes they are entitled to control another and can include physical, psychological, emotional, verbal, sexual, and/or economic abuse.
Victim advocates are available to offer support services to victims of domestic abuse. They advocate for victim’s rights and needs, while informing them of reporting options, assisting them with staying safe, serving as a liaison between the victim and Command, and offering continued support. Victim assistance is also available through the law enforcement, medical and legal process.
Victim Advocates: (760) 725-9051
Mon-Thu: 7:30am-5pm and Fri: 7:30am-4pm
After hours contact Victim Advocates’ at: (760) 500-2633
How to report Domestic Violence
- Restricted Reporting: Intended for adult victims of domestic violence/abuse who want to receive advocacy and counseling services without command or law enforcement being notified of incident.
- Active duty and civilian victims of domestic violence/abuse can make a “restricted” report through the following avenues ONLY:
- Victim Advocates
- Chaplains (privilege)
- Counseling Services personnelSome exceptions may apply, please consult with your local victim advocate for additional information.
- A report of Domestic Violence can start off as “RESTRICTED” and later reclassify as unrestricted per victim’s request
- Unit Victim Advocates (UVA) and Family Readiness Officers (FRO) ARE mandated reporters of domestic violence/abuse
- Unrestricted Reporting is intended for victims of domestic violence/abuse who want to pursue an official investigation of an incident via PMO/law enforcement, Chain of Command, Chaplain or Family Advocacy Program (FAP).
Sexual Assault Confidential Reporting
(760) 500-1707 ― 24/7 Assistance
(877) 995-5247 ― DoD Safe Helpline
Domestic Violence Confidential Reporting
(760) 500-2633 ― 24/7 Assistance
Suicide Prevention Confidential Hotline
(800) 273-TALK ― 24/7 Assistance
National Child Abuse Hotline
(800) 422-4453 ― 24/7 Assistance
- Women’s Resource Center – Oceanside, CA (24/7) 1-(760)-757-3500
- National Domestic Violence Hotline (24/7) 1-(800)-799-7233 (SAFE)
- Internet Safety
- Internet Safety for Survivors of Domestic Violence ( 374k )
- Power and Control Wheel
- MCCS Victim Advocacy 101
- MCCS Family Advocacy Program
- Lifeline: DV Intervention Program (Court Approved)